Expert Author Susan Leigh
Once our children start to enter the wider world of school, other children and have experiences away from the home it can be a nerve-wracking time for both the child and parent, especially if we start to suspect that our child is being bullied.
We want our children to grow up with confidence, make friends and experience life to the full. We may well accept that both good and bad experiences contribute to making them fully rounded as a person, but there is also a desire to protect them and give them the perfect fairy tale childhood.
Sometimes though it can become clear that our child is unhappy and something is wrong; we may suspect that our child is being bullied.
- Look out for changes in their behaviour and demeanour. Some children start bed-wetting again if they are stressed. They retreat into deep sleep and miss the signs that their bladder is full. Some children may become moody, withdrawn, angry with their siblings or toys. They may be frustrated at what is happening to them and start to act out at home.
- Children are often embarrassed and ashamed at the way they are being treated by others. They may feel to blame for the bullying in some way, different from the other kids, or be scared and afraid of saying or doing something that will make it worse. Telling adults may be a frightening proposition, in case they are told off by the adults or are discovered by the bullies to have told tales.
- Try to provide opportunities for your child to talk. Eating together, sharing family meals can be a great opportunity to notice changes in your child's temperament or demeanour. Discussions may need to be handled in a low-key way, where you share experiences from your own childhood over dinner, or tell relevant stories at bedtime.
The Ugly Duckling is a lovely metaphorical story to use as the ugly duckling turns out to be a beautiful swan at the end. Stories like this can provide an opportunity to talk about what the story means as well as introduce hope for a brighter future.
- Liaise with school teachers, the head, other parents to discover what their thoughts are on bullying and your child in particular. It may be that the problem is more widespread that you realised; on the school bus, at the local shop, on the walk to school. By talking with the school and other parents it may emerge that there is a bigger problem with bullying that needs to be dealt with.
- Try to ascertain what your child's perception of home life is like. Some children worry about money. They may have overheard conversations about work, bills, shortage of cash, and be fearful of their future security. Or they may have heard arguments between parents, discussions about one parent's health and be afraid to say anything in case their fears are confirmed. These fears can result in a child becoming withdrawn, quiet, seemingly unwell and afraid to go to school.
- Look at building your child's confidence and self-esteem in different areas. Encourage their interests and ensure that they have activities where they have friends with a similar outlook, get praised for their efforts and are able to thrive. This quality time can be a lifeline to children who feel different to the other children they meet at school, in their neighbourhood or even at home. Mixing with children who are like them can improve their confidence and provide important reassurance and comfort.
- Spend time with your children individually as well as in a family group. If you have several children they can gradually become 'the kids' and almost lose their individual identity over time. Spending time with each one separately allows them to establish their individuality and become their own person.
It also provides an arena for them to have a safe conversation and reveal any fears, concerns or issues about being bullied in private. It's important to take their concerns seriously even if they sound trivial or inconsequential. Children are often sensitive little souls who bravely soldier on. Revealing their inner thoughts can take courage, and that needs to be taken seriously.
Children don't have the same resources as adults. They rely on the grown-ups in their lives to protect them and maintain a safe environment in which they can learn, develop and grow into confident and healthy adults. Supporting them with their fears and concerns and being aware of any changes that may suggest they are being bullied is an important responsibility as a parent.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
These days many marriages end in divorce, often badly after several years of increasing distress and arguments. Children are often the unfortunate witnesses to much of the breakup. They hear more than they should and quickly learn to become very sensitive to any changes of mood or atmosphere in the home.
After the divorce many parents feel guilty at the potential harm they did to their children during the difficult periods in the marriage. They reflect with regret on the things that their children saw, heard or the details that they were told during moments of extreme provocation.
Let's look at some ways to make it up to the children after the divorce:
- Commit to hypnotherapy. Deal with your issues, the anger and resentment, the hurt over how you've been treated. Accept responsibility for the part you played in the breakdown of the relationship. Hypnotherapy can help you to work on feeling better about yourself, more positive about what you've experienced. Start to look forward to the future, feeling calmer and clearer about what you want to achieve. Children will relax as they notice the improvement.
- Apologise. Be honest and say that you're sorry for the things you've said and done. Children appreciate an adult admitting their mistakes. They will value such an acknowledgement and it will help them to heal their own recollections of those times.
- Listen to what your children have to say. Really listen, without feeling the need to interrupt or make excuses. Children can feel that their experiences are disregarded, as if hurt is only felt by the adults in a divorce. Listening helps a child feel validated. Their perception of what happened is real to them, even if you disagree or have a different viewpoint.
- Make allowances, especially at first. Children often feel unsettled after a divorce, especially if they have had to move or were especially close to one parent whom they now see only erratically. Their behaviour may be difficult initially. Encourage them to keep contact with their other parent, allow them to have private phone calls, with no interrogations afterwards. Think of projects that unite the family like decorating their bedrooms. Consider involving grandparents. They are often good at providing a calm, stable presence.
- Be respectful when they talk about their other parent and any potential new partners who may appear from time to time. It may be tempting to be sarcastic or make bitter rejoinders, but no one benefits from that behaviour. You end up distressing the children and making them feel that they can't talk freely about their other parent.
- Be polite to your ex. Remember you loved each other once. A lot may have happened since then, but you've got beautiful children to show for the time spent together. Both your lives have since moved on, so respect that and the fact that your joint children deserve to have the easiest time possible whilst adjusting to the new arrangements.
- Demonstrate how well you're doing. Many newly divorced parents say that it's their children who help them to keep going, especially at first. Show the children that you're okay. They have adjustments of their own to make. It's unfair for them to go to school, worried and anxious about how their parent is coping.
Show children that life is getting better. Start by making the place feel like home, cook a new dish, look after yourself, organise joint activities like games or family TV. Introduce things that they can enjoy and see as evidence that life is settling down. These are all things that can help your children feel better about life after divorce.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
There are times in life when we have no choice but to deal with a serious conflict situation. There may be several reasons why we find ourselves faced with a stressful issue that cannot be ignored or walked away from. There may have been a major difference of opinion, a perceived wrong-doing or we're feeling vulnerable and have reacted in an especially sensitive or vulnerable way during an emotionally charged exchange. Whatever the reason, it can result in a very stressful time.
Feelings can run high as things that may usually be ignored or hardly noticed find themselves being added to our mental checklist and becoming another cause of distress. And so we can find ourselves feeling increasingly angry, hurt, disappointed and ever more stressed. Might it be useful to look at the reasons for the conflict and explore what the real, underlying issues might be?
Hints for when it's time to deal with stressful conflict;
- Start by itemising what your grievances really are. Initially we may want to list a mountain of examples which, when we pause for reflection, aren't as overwhelming as was first perceived. They may boil down to one or two key items which can help identify what the real underlying issues are. Often feeling ignored, disrespected, not listened to, taken for granted feature high on many lists.
- Might aspects of the situation be down to you? Perhaps someone has put your nose out of joint, your ego has been hurt or there are genuine comments which warrant your consideration. Maybe you really do have valid reasons for feeling aggrieved. But it's often the case that half of the list is relatively trivial or is an extension of one bigger, core issue.
- Be empathic and try to see the other person's viewpoint. They're not a bad person, that's why you became friendly with them in the first place. So it's highly unlikely that they're taking pleasure in being evil or malevolent. Is it worth going through what's happened and discussing it with family and friends to gain a third-party's perspective? In doing that it's important to remain as factual as possible, as you outline your experience of the problem.
- Pick your key points of dissent, the really important matters you feel need to be raised when you decide to sort out the conflict. It's vital to keep details as simple and uncomplicated as possible and aim to manage stress by keeping emotions in check. Otherwise discussions can get lost amongst a deluge of claims, counter-claims, justifications and excuses. Be ready to listen to some tough truths about yourself too; after all, the other person will have their own perspective of you and your role in the conflict.
- Be clear as to your choice of location, where you're prepared to meet. A neutral place can be less stressful and help you keep better control of yourself. For example, some people prefer not to discuss contentious matters at home or at work. Have suggestions as to when and where you'd feel most comfortable discussing matters. A public place can be good, as having other people around can ensure a more restrained conversation. Sometimes it can be good to introduce a third-party referee who asks questions and keeps the discussion on track.
- Commit to really listen as the other person speaks. Demonstrate that you're listening through positive body language, reflecting back what's been said and keeping your general demeanour interested and alert. It may be that they're completely in the dark as to your level of upset, have no idea what you're talking about. They may regard the whole thing as a storm in a teacup. Consider how you'll react if you get this response. Could it be that you're being over-sensitive, or could it be a symptom of how stressed you are? Is the other person being difficult or are they exceptionally thick-skinned?
- When there are grievances it's important to try to understand the full picture. As a relationship counsellor I'm often amazed at how two people can recount exactly the same facts and yet have two totally different interpretations of what happened and how it affected them. Listen to what the other person has to say without interruption or second-guessing and try to really appreciate their reasons for feeling the way they do.
- Decide at the outset what would be a good result for you. Do you want to heal the relationship or has it now stopped working for you and you're fine about ending it completely? Could there be occasions when you may need to meet socially or might you have to continue working together because of business or family connections? Are you able to be polite and cordial on those occasions? Consider what the best, most effective outcome would be for you and how to achieve that result.
Deciding to deal with conflict is often far less stressful than leaving it to simmer away, causing unhappy undercurrents. Conflict rarely goes away of its own accord. By determining in advance what you want and need in order to resolve the matter helps you feel clearer, more in control and able to work towards achieving the most positive outcome for everyone involved.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
Imagine you went on a first date with someone who was sarcastic, nasty, disparaging towards you. It's hard to believe that you would agree to a second date. Yet an abusive relationship can creep up on us and have us gradually accepting that behaviour, justifying it, perhaps even feeling that we are in some way responsible for it happening.
The abuser often couches their behaviour subtly; they may claim they are trying to help us improve, are encouraging us to remedy a perceived failing or flaw.
It is often sexual abuse that gains the most media coverage but abuse also covers physical, emotional and mental cruelty and can be experienced by people of either gender, age, in any strata of society. It's important for us to become aware if escalating patterns of unacceptable, sustained bad treatment start to appear.
- Abuse is often about control. The abuser may be insecure, afraid of losing you, fearful that you'll find someone better, so they try to hold onto the relationship by increasingly checking where you're going, what you're doing, how you're spending your money, how you dress.
Often an abuser will try to make you increasingly dependent and reliant on them. They may discourage you from working; they earn enough, why not take a break, why not take time to think about doing something else? It can be a seductive, attractive process where you feel cared for, loved, supported but over time you gradually lose your financial independence, career, friends, even family.
- Emotional abuse often starts by establishing a cosy 'us against the world' scenario where you're assured that you're all they have/need/want. At first you feel loved and secure, safe in the loving bubble of warmth and protection. Gradually you'll find you spend less time with friends, especially if it becomes an increasing hassle to make arrangements, they are regarded as a bad influence or your family is accused of being unfriendly or interfering.
Over time it becomes harder to make plans to see 'outsiders'. You may find that when you try to make plans they often clash with 'special' or 'important' functions you're required to attend, or there is an insistence in dropping you off and picking you up, where they return earlier than agreed. This in itself may be fine. You justify the behaviour as friendly, sociable, helpful, but combined with negative remarks about your clothes, hair, makeup you may gradually start to lose any confidence in yourself.
Some abusers become so controlling that they methodically check every financial transaction and request for money, query every call or text on the itemized phone bill, undertake daily mileage checks on your car, phone or return home at unexpected times to see what you're doing. If you try to challenge their behaviour they will justify themselves logically and reasonably, even making you feel guilty, apologetic at having questioned their motives.
- Physical abuse often starts with a tap, a push, an angry slap. Sometimes alcohol is involved. The perpetrator is often seriously contrite afterwards, promising never to repeat their behaviour. It's important to be firm with them, discuss what's happened and insist that thy seek help, perhaps to specifically deal with anger or alcohol related issues. Keep a diary of abusive behaviour, try to save money in a secret account and have a safe place where you know you can escape to if you become afraid.
- Sexual abuse can involve gradual but increasing degradation; the pressure to do things, engage in practices you find off-putting, unpleasant, painful or humiliating. You may be accused of being frigid, a prude, old-fashioned but whilst it can be fun to experiment and explore sex together, a relationship should be about both parties feeling comfortable and moving at a pace that is fine for them both.
Start as you mean to go on is an important message for new relationships. Keep regular channels of communication open between you and be sure to discuss any areas you feel unhappy about. Be firm and refuse to be bullied into doing things you don't want to do. You're allowed to change your mind even if you've gone along with things previously.
If you're beginning to feel uneasy in your relationship find an ally, a friend, a therapist with whom you can confidentially discuss matters. It may be that you're being over-sensitive, feeling vulnerable, or past experiences have made you ultra-cautious. Even so, you're entitled to consideration and respect, to have your concerns listened to. Is there a place you could go to de-stress, to take a break, giving you both time to reflect on your relationship? Might you benefit from outside help from a counsellor, a mediator, priest, family friend?
Take time to explore what the triggers are, what happens to spark off the abusive behaviour. Look for help for either or both of you to deal with those issues. It's important to protect yourself and your self-esteem, and perhaps help your abuser too.
10 reasons why physical relationship after marriage
10 कारण शादी के बाद शारीरिक संबंध क्यों महत्वपूर्ण होता है 
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नमस्कार दोस्तों | आज हम आपसे एक 10 कारण शादी के बाद शारीरिक संबंध क्यों महत्वपूर्ण होता है  ऐसे विषय के बारे में बात करेंगे जिस विषय के बारे में हमें पता होना चाहिए हमें का मतलब उन लोगों से है | जिनका विवाह हो चुका है यह होने वाला है क्योंकि विवाह के बाद संबंध बनाना एक अहम अनुभव होता है | यह अनुभव बहुत ही सुखद माना जाता है लेकिन विवाह के बाद संबंध बनाना क्यों आवश्यक है |( 10 कारण शादी के बाद शारीरिक संबंध क्यों महत्वपूर्ण होता है  | इसकी कुछ बातों के बारे में आज हम आपसे बात करेंगे |

पार्टनर में प्यार बना रहता है
तो शादी के बाद शारीरिक संबंध बनाने से महिला और पुरुष बहुत नजदीक होते हैं | और इससे उनका व्यवहारिक जीवन बहुत ही सफल होता चला जाता है और दोनों में प्यार बढ़ता है | इसलिए शादी के बाद संबंध बनाना जरूरी होता है |
रिलैक्स के लिए
जब मनुष्य की शादी हो जाती है तो उसके बाद उसे कई प्रकार के बातों का सामना करना पड़ता है | जिससे उसे टेंशन भी हो जाती है | लेकिन जब व्यक्ति शारीरिक संबंध बना लेता है उसके बाद उसे बहुत ही हल्का महसूस होता है इसलिए व्यक्ति को विवाह के बाद यह काम करना चाहिए |
हारमोंस का ठीक रहना
थोड़ी सी अटपटी है लेकिन हारमोंस हमारे शरीर में एक बहुत ही महत्वपूर्ण कार्य करते हैं | हारमोंस के बिगड़ जाने पर हमारे शरीर में कार्य संचालन प्रभावित होता है | अतः जब हम अपने पार्टनर के साथ होते हैं तो हमारे शरीर में विशेष प्रकार के हारमोंस उत्सर्जित होते हैं जो हमारी शरीर को चुस्त दुरुस्त रखते हैं और शरीर में होने वाली विभिन्न आर्थिक क्रियाओं को सुचारु रुप से चलने में मदद करते हैं | अतः विवाह के बाद संबंध बनाने से हारमोंस ठीक रहते हैं और हमारा शरीर भी सुखी और संपन्न रहता है |
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Why physical relationship after marriage

आपको 10 कारण शादी के बाद शारीरिक संबंध क्यों महत्वपूर्ण होता है आर्टिकल कैसा लगा और अगर आपके मन में और कुछ भी बात है | तो हमें कमेंट बॉक्स में जरुर बताएं और अगर आपको यह आर्टिकल अच्छा लगा हो तो हमें लाइक करें और इस आर्टिकल को ज्यादा से ज्यादा शेयर करें |

ज्यादा दवाइयों का सेवन से होने वाले नुकसान II दवाइयों के 10 हानिकारक प्रभाव II


      (सावधान अगर आप  ज्यादा दवाई खाते है )

अगर आप एंटीबायोटिक दवाई ले रहे हैं खबर आपके लिए हैI

एंटीबायोटिक दवाएं जब नहीं बनी थी तो जीवन रक्षा बहुत कठिन था| असमय अनेक मौतों का हो जाना आम बात थी मगर अब जब जीवन सेबी बनकर सेबीबायोटिक्स हमें उपलब्ध है| इसका प्रयोग भी खतरे से खाली नहीं है आइए हम इस समस्या पर जाना री लें|

1-एंटीबायोटिक के ज्यादा प्रयोग से जीवाणु अपने बचने का तरीका ढूंढ लेते हैं और वे इसके प्रभाव को खत्म कर देते हैं इसलिए हमें अधिक एंटीबायोटिक से बचना चाहिए|

ज्यादा दवाइयों का सेवन से होने वाले नुकसान II दवाइयों के 10 हानिकारक प्रभाव II

2-कई लोग आर्थिक स्थिति कमजोर होने के कारण एंटीबायोटिक की पूरी खुराक नहीं ले पाते हैं जिससे एंटीबायोटिक बेअसर हो जाती है|

3-पूरी जानकारी ना होना जागरूकता की कमी कुछ ऐसे कारण है कि लोग पूरी दवा की मात्रा पूरे दिन के लिए नहीं खाते हैं|

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4-कुछ दवाइयां भी नकली निम्न स्तर की कम शक्तिशाली दिखने लगी है यह भी कारण है कि एंटीबायोटिक बेअसर हो रही है|

5-वास्तव में सर्दी-जुकाम जैसी बीमारियों के लिए एंटीबायोटिक देना शरीर की कार्यशीलता को नुकसान पहुंचाता है| ऐसे अवसर पर एंटीबायोटिक देने से प्रतिरोधक क्षमता को नुकसान पहुंचता है|

एंटीबायोटिक की मदद से मुर्गी से अधिक अंडे गाय से अधिक दूध पेड़ पौधों से अधिक फल-सब्जियां प्राप्त की जाती हैं |
इसे खाकर जीवाणुओं में प्रतिरोधक क्षमता विकसित हो जाती है जो गलत है| 
खाद्य पदार्थों के उत्पादन में यह सब हो रहा है| कुल एंटीबायोटिक में से 50% व खाद्य पदार्थ के उत्पादन में लग रहा है यही हमारे शरीर में जाता है| 
जीवाणुओं में प्रतिरोधक क्षमता को बढ़ा देता है |तभी दवा का असर नहीं होता है|

इस आर्टिकल में बताई गई बातों को ध्यान दें | और इसको अपने जीवन में अपनाएं अगर आपको यह आर्टिकल अच्छा लगा हो तो हमें कमेंट बॉक्स में जरुर बताएं और अगर आप दूसरों का भला चाहते हैं तो इसे ज्यादा से ज्यादा शेयर करें | जिससे हिंदी समझने वाले लोग इस आर्टिकल को समझ सकें और उनका भला हो सके और हमारी मेहनत सफल हो सके I

ज्यादा दवाइयों का सेवन से होने वाले नुकसान II दवाइयों के 10 हानिकारक प्रभाव II

15 diabetes symptoms and home remedies in hindi 

Diabetes symptoms and home remedies in hindi

Diabetes home remedy treatment and symptoms

मधुमेह आज के दिनों में एक आम समस्या बन गई है | इसके लिए लोग महंगी से महंगी दवाइयां खरीदते हैं और उनको कुछ ज्यादा लाभ नहीं होता है | आज हम आपको कुछ घरेलू नुस्खों के बारे में बताने जा रहे हैं यह पूरा आर्टिकल हिंदी में रहेगा इसमें हम आपको मधुमेह के लक्षण और उनसे बचने के कुछ घरेलू नुस्खों के बारे में बताएंगे | diabetes symptoms and home remedies in hindi बदलता परिवेश और रहन-सहन शहर में Diabetes  के Marijo की संख्या में तेजी से increase कर रहा है। खान-पान पर control न होना भी इसके लिए reason  है। Diabetes के मरीज को headache ,tired जैसी problem हमेशा बनी रहती हैं। Diabetes में blood में suger की मात्रा increase जाती है। वैसे इसका कोई स्थायी treatment नहीं है। परंतु जीवनशैली में बदलाव, education तथा खान-पान की habits में सुधार द्वारा bimari को पूरी तरह control किया जा सकता है।

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मधुमेह लक्षण symptoms of Diabetes :------

1. बार-बार पेशाब आना।

2. बहुत ज्यादा प्यास लगना।

3. बहुत पानी पीने के बाद भी गला सूखना।

4. खाना खाने के बाद भी बहुत भूख लगना।

5. मितली होना और कभी-कभी उल्टी होना।

6. हाथ-पैर में अकड़न और शरीर में झंझनाहट होना।

7. हर समय कमजोरी और थकान की complain  होना।

8. Eyes से धुंधलापन होना।

9. Skin या मूत्रमार्ग में संक्रमण।

10. Skin में रूखापन आना।

11. चिड़चिड़ापन।

12. Headache ।

13. Body का temperature कम होना।

14. मांसपेशियों में pain।

15. Weight में कमी होना।

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1- tulsi के पत्तों में  antiaucident और ज़रूरी तेल होते हैं जो insulin के लिये helpful होते है । इसलिए suger level को कम करने के लिए दो से तीन tulsi के पत्ते को everyday खाली पेट लें, या एक tablespoon तुलसी के पत्ते का juice लें।

2-10 Mg आंवले के juice को 2 gm हल्दी के powder में मिला लीजिए। इस घोल को day में 2 time लीजिए। इससे blood में suger की मात्रा control होती है।

3-black जामुन diabetes के मरीजों के लिए achook medicine मानी जाती है। diabetes के रोगियों को black salt के साथ jamun खाना चाहिए। इससे blood में suger की मात्रा control होती है।

4-लगभग one month के लिए अपने every day के आहार में एक ग्राम दालचीनी का use करें, इससे blood sugar level को कम करने के साथ weight को भी control करने में help मिलेगी।

5-करेले को Diabetes की औषधि के रूप में use किया जाता है। इसका कड़वा juice suger की मात्रा कम करता है।अत: इसका juice every day पीना चाहिए। उबले करेले के पानी से diabetes को शीघ्र स्थाई रूप से end किया जा सकता है।

6- Diabetes के उपचार के लिए मैथीदाने का बहुत important है, इससे पुराना Diabetes भी thik हो जाता है। मैथीदानों का powder नित्य प्रातः खाली पेट 2 टी-स्पून पानी के साथ लेना चाहिए ।

7-काँच या चीनी मिट्टी के pot में 5-6 ladyfinger काटकर night को गला दीजिए, सुबह इस water को छानकर पी लीजिए।

8- Diabetes मरीजो को नियमित रूप से 2 spoon neem और चार spoon केले के पत्ते के juice को मिलाकर पीना चाहिए।

9- Green tea भी diabetes मे बहुत benifit मानी जाती है green tea में पॉलीफिनोल्स होते हैं जो एक strong एंटी-ऑक्सीडेंट और हाइपो-ग्लाइसेमिक तत्व हैं, body me insulin का सही तरह से use कर पाता है।

10-सहजन के पत्तों में milk की तुलना में 4  गुना calcium और दुगना protine पाया जाता है। diabetes में इन पत्तों के सेवन से भोजन के पाचन और रक्तचाप को कम करने में help मिलती है। इसके regular use से भी लाभ प्राप्त होता है ।

15 diabetes symptoms and home remedies in hindi 

11-one tamato , one cucumber और एक करेला को मिलाकर juice निकाल लीजिए। इस juice को every day morning खाली पेट लीजिए। इससे diabetes में बहुत फायदा होता है।

12-गेहूं के पौधों में रोगनाशक quality होते हैं। गेहूं के छोटे-छोटे पौधों से juice निकालकर प्रतिदिन सेवन करने से भी diabetes control में रहता है।

13- Diabetes के मरीजों को भूख से थोड़ा कम तथा हल्का food लेने की सलाह दी जाती है। ऐसे में खीरा lemon निचोड़कर खाकर hunger मिटाना चाहिए।

14- Diabetes उपचार मे शलजम का भी बहुत महत्व है । शलजम के use से भी blood में स्थित suger की मात्रा कम होने लगती है। इसके अतिरिक्त diabetes के रोगी को तरोई, लौकी, परवल, palak, पपीता आदि का use भी ज्यादा करना चाहिए।

15- 6 bel पत्र , 6 neem के पत्ते, 6 tulsi के पत्ते, 6 बैगनबेलिया के हरे पत्ते, 3 साबुत black paper ताज़ी पत्तियाँ पीसकर खाली पेट, water के साथ लें और सेवन के बाद कम से कम half hour और कुछ न खाएं , इसके daily useसे भी suger सामान्य हो जाती है । 

15 diabetes symptoms and home remedies in hindi 
Expert Author Susan Leigh
There are times in a relationship when we may feel that our partner is being less than honest with us. This situation can become compounded if they demonstrate an apparent indifference to allaying our concerns. The result can be an almost pantomime-like exchange of accusations and denials, potentially funny if the situation wasn't so distressing.
Let's look at the reasons why some people may appear to be secretive:
- Being on the receiving end of repeated questioning and inquisitions can be tiresome. If a person feels that their relationship has become overbearing, that every action, thought and movement has to be accounted for, they may start to withdraw. Whether their perception be the truth matters not; it is how it feels to them. It is important that they verbalize the need for a little space. Feeling claustrophobic in a relationship can stifle other positive emotions and leave few options other than to walk away.
- Shame can make a person appear secretive. When a person is involved in a problem situation, whether it be of their own making or not, they may be unsure as to what to do next. Revealing what has happened may be too appalling to entertain; they may not have got their own head around events or decided what options are available to them. And admitting what has happened may only succeed in making it appear all the more real. A first step may be for them to ask for a little time, ask loved ones to be patient for a while.
- Fear of rejection can be an important factor in appearing secretive. Fearing the consequences of saying or doing something can come across as secretive or suspicious to one's partner. Learning to trust that by being open, honest and real they will receive a positive response can take a little time. A relationship can take time for both people to feel certain of each other, that it is a safe place in which to reveal personal, private and sometimes disappointing or unfortunate matters.
- Concern at provoking anger or a bad reaction can result in a person bottling things up. Confrontation is a fearsome proposition to many people. People of any age will often fight shy of dealing with a situation where there is the potential for a bad reaction. Even when they accept that anticipation is usually more nerve-wracking than revealing what has happened, or that delay often causes matters to become far worse, many people will still choose to avoid being the bearer of bad news for fear of the consequences.
- Feeling safe and secure in a relationship is an important factor in alleviating the need for secretive behaviour. Establishing a sense of togetherness, a strong team spirit helps people feel supported and able to share and resolve problems together. Discovering that 'our' relationship is solid and secure removes the need to keep bad news to oneself. When there is a feeling of being in it together, that whatever happens we'll deal with it, that mindset removes any requirement to protect oneself or keep bad news a secret.
Close relationships take time to nurture and develop. When people feel listened to, not judged, respected, they then become confident and better able to trust each other.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
Many of us feel guilt sometime in our lives. We may feel guilty about the things we have said or done, or even about the things that were not said or done. Guilt is often associated with shame, embarrassment, regret. But living under a cloud of guilt can eat away at us resulting in stress and unhappiness. Even health can suffer as a consequence.
Let's look at the best way to deal with guilt.
- Is there a repeating pattern of bad, unfortunate behaviour triggered by certain times or situations? These times are often followed by periods of guilt, contrition and promises to improve. If so, it may be time to consider seeking help to remedy that pattern. Counselling and hypnotherapy are powerful and effective ways of addressing and healing negative, destructive behaviour so that a better, more appropriate quality of life can be lived.
- Accept that there are times in everyone's life where things occur that are regretful. Mistakes happen, we don't always get it right and sometimes say the wrong things. Appreciate that we are human and apologize if appropriate. Act quickly, with genuine remorse and then let go of any guilt.
- Learn from what has happened. Mistakes can be a powerful way to improve. They teach us about the consequences of our actions, the impact that we can have on others. A sensible person recognises the value of the experience and vows not to make the same mistake again.
- Taking responsibility is important. By quickly admitting when we have done wrong, perhaps been negligent or careless, it allows a situation to be dealt with and hopefully rectified straight away. We all have to learn to behave in a responsible way: work situations need treating with integrity; our own and the reputation of others needs to be safeguarded; relationships deserve respect. All these are all positions of trust. Treating that trust with respect and admitting if we slip up is vital in remedying any problems quickly to ensure a minimum of damage.
- Use guilt as a way to benefit the relationship, to commit to appreciating the other person more and treating them better from now on. Making amends and valuing our relationship can be a constructive way to move forward from an unfortunate event and deal with guilt. We may keep our guilt private, but even so vow to behave in a more caring way to make amends.
- Empathy can be learned as a consequence of guilt. When we recognise that we have hurt another person we can start to appreciate and understand the ways that our actions affect others. We learn about the implications of our behaviour and come to value the importance of thinking before we speak. We hopefully start to consider other people in a more empathic way.
- Are others trying to make us feel guilty in a 'don't worry about me, I'll be fine' kind of way? Recognise what others are trying to do and then decide if you are okay with being manipulated in that way. Elderly relatives sometimes try to tug at the heartstrings and that may be acceptable on occasion. At other times learn to be firm but kind and explain that you cannot oblige their demands. Don't allow yourself to be guilt-tripped unless that suits you.
- Forgiveness is also a positive way to deal with guilt. When we react harshly to people and situations and then feel guilty afterwards, judge ourselves and others in a negative light, apportion blame, we can feel guilty at our quick reactions. Being more forgiving allows a live and let live quality of life to occur.
Being patient and accepting enables a more tolerant environment to flourish. Mistakes will still occur, we will still slip up and behave badly on occasion, but being kinder ensures a less judgemental atmosphere. People need to be responsible for their behaviour and actions but the best way to deal with guilt is in a humane and understanding way.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
It is not uncommon for people to find that they keep making the same mistakes in their relationships. They may despair that they always pick the same kind of partner, someone who treats them badly, who won't commit, someone whom they feel unable to trust or who constantly lets them down. They may swear that this time they are going to learn from their bad experience and not make the same mistakes again, but still they end up in the same situation with their next partner.
Let's look at the reasons why people keep making the same mistakes in their relationships:
- When a person is choosing a partner they pattern match; they look for characteristics and traits that they recognise, feel comfortable with, that are familiar. This applies equally to both good and bad traits. A person may have come to associate nice with routine and boring, or volatile with exciting, interesting, never a dull moment. They may not like the way they are treated in their relationships, promise themselves that they will leave and find someone who treats them better/differently, but when they look for a new relationship they automatically gravitate to what they recognise and are familiar with.
- Better the devil I know is a saying that rings true in this situation. People intuitively respond to characteristics that are familiar to them. They learn the most effective way to survive, manage and react to difficult situations through becoming accustomed to dealing with them over the years. They may have come to expect that this is how men and women behave, this is what adult relationships look like. Their role models have taught them what to expect from relationships.
Growing up, the way they were treated by their parents formed part of their conditioning, as did watching the way their parents treated each other. Similarly, if they felt the need to compete with their mother/father or siblings for their mother/father's affection, learning what worked and what didn't work all formed part of the lessons in relationship skills.
- Safe is boring. Often people who are accustomed to volatile relationships, when asked how they would feel if they dated a regular, steady person, someone who is safe, dependable, respectful, struggle to stifle a yawn. They are used to scary and dangerous, and find those relationships exciting even though they may be distressed and terrified for part of the time. They may spend much of their time walking on eggshells, scared of saying or doing the 'wrong' thing but prefer that to the alternative. These people may regard being treated badly as part of the price they have to pay for having an exciting relationship.
- This is all I deserve. Some people have such low self-esteem that they feel grateful if anyone wants to be with them. They may spend their time trying to be what that they think the other person wants them to be, second guessing every comment, convinced that if they did better, tried harder everything would be fine. This situation ends up being unsatisfactory for everyone. They feel increasingly annoyed, upset, distressed that their partner is not happy with them; whilst their partner may be a bully who is impossible to satisfy or be someone who is increasingly frustrated at their lack of confidence and assertiveness. Either way, the pattern in the relationship becomes more and more damaging and destructive over time.
It is only when we recognise that we are following a destructive pattern in our relationships that we can start to do something about it. Friends and family may despair, try repeatedly to give warnings and advice, but the desire for change has got to come from ourselves. Counselling and hypnotherapy can play an important role in recognising where the pattern has come from and then work towards healing it and becoming more positive about committing to a healthier and more equal quality of relationship from now on.
Expert Author Susan Leigh
Certain times of the year lend themselves to reviewing our lives, to taking time to look at where we've been, what we've achieved so far and where we want to go from here. Keeping life interesting and fulfilling can mean introducing some changes, which will often require planning in order that they be successfully implemented. Let's look at three steps for successful resolutions.
Resolution A's
- Achievable. For goals or changes to be actionable they need to be realistic. It's important that they stretch us enough so we keep on trying, but not be so daunting that we give up feeling exasperated, useless or completely deflated. Remember that a high-jumper only knows they've reached their limit when they fail, otherwise they keep on raising the bar. Make sure that you allow for training, coaching or support in areas where you're short of essential skills or knowledge.
- Application is about keeping on turning up. We have to regularly check in with our goals and maybe make a few sacrifices along the way. But it's also important to give ourselves rewards as encouragement and an acknowledgment of our efforts. Treat yourself to a relaxing bath or shower after a workout or training, enjoy a cosy night watching a film after an onerous piece of work. Reward yourself for the hard graft and determination you've displayed.
- Allow yourself to fail from time to time without beating yourself up. Be gentle with yourself. There's no need to be harsh if you slip up or don't immediately reach your target. Re-focus and start again, treating setbacks as minor events on the road to good results. We're all human and a mini-lapse doesn't need to signal the end of your aspirations.
Resolution B's
- Begin with the right mindset, but don't wait for all conditions to be perfect before you start. You don't need to wait for a new day, week or year - right now is as good a time as any. Set yourself some relevant tasks or actions every day. It may be to make a phone call, send an email, do 10 minutes exercise, cook a healthy meal. Find affirmations or phrases that keep you motivated and on track. You could say to yourself 'I am doing this', 'I am worth this', two examples of ways to talk positively to yourself and bolster your self-belief.
- Barriers to successful resolutions may typically be seen as having too little time, financial constraints, responsibilities like work, children, family or partners. Different factors may contrive to get in the way of you being free to pursue your goals but try to work around them. If now's not a good time to commit fully, why not break down your goals and identify the individual stepping-stones that will move you nearer, taking you in the right direction. Work on the one or two steps that you can accommodate right now.
- Blockages may well be an aspect of your own mindset, the negative self-talk that has perhaps accumulated over the years. Identify any stressors or situations that tend to trigger a negative response or divert you from your path. Then you can work to resolve those issues. Therapy can sometimes be useful when this happens, especially if it happens on a regular basis.
Resolution C's
- Check inside yourself to ensure that your goals are right for you, that they're yours and not someone else's. Do you really want to stop smoking, lose weight, get fitter, take your business to the next level? Doing things to please someone else can work for a time but is often difficult to sustain long-term or when the going gets tough.
- Commitment is sustained by belief and the desire to succeed. Setting mini-goals is often a great way to motivate you to maintain the effort. Then you can recognise each step as a positive result in its own right, leading you to the overall prize. Congratulate yourself at each milestone reached.
- Challenge yourself when you set goals and resolutions. It's best when your goals have a real resonance for you, when they stretch, motivate and inspire you, even on the tough or difficult days. That way you get to relish the sense of achievement every time you do well.
- Care for yourself well. When you're the most important person in your life others get the best of you too. When you look after yourself you're better equipped to support others. You're more positive, relaxed and less stressed. Yes, people and situations may need you to be there, to love and care for them, earn money, be supportive, but be sure to find a balance. Caring for yourself and your needs through supporting your goals and quality of life ensures that you're happier and healthier, emotionally, mentally and physically.
Then all that needs to happen is for you to set yourself some goals and resolutions. Why not start this positive process now!